Christmas - Whew!

For some, Christmas is truly a freeing, joyous experience rich in tradition and no real complications. For others, there is a sigh of relief when Christmas is over. Most everyone has THAT family member or person that is difficult to manage! Yet, you navigated the landmines.

Why is Christmas the time when those situations seem to "rear their ugly head" the most? I would suggest it is about expectations. How can one day be filled with so many expectations? Expectations in our heart, what we thought would happen, how it's suppose to be, how it use to be.

Divorce truly moved a position for me, pushed me to change expectations. Not only me, but the other family members around me. It was a difficult switch (and watch)- for everyone! My expectations were forced to change. Losing some traditions and gaining others. Sharing children, navigating times, making sure there is some fairness, negotiating lingering anger, navigating extended family. Well, and, being alone. There are also all those family pictures you see on Facebook or in Christmas cards. Those "happy" families. Wow! How did I get here, was my comment most of the time! I remember my first separated Christmas at the Chinese restaurant. Had no idea those were the only ones open on Christmas. Changed expectations!

I still have that family member, I'm sure you do too! But, expectations are changing and, traditions, some stayed and some left. Congratulations! We made it...until next year.

How were expectations in your Christmas?